How Do You Feel About Your Husband Wearing Makeup?

So, has society evolved enough to accept men wearing makeup?

Well, if you’re against a man putting on a fresh face maybe you should reconsider
Men have been wearing cosmetics since the Egyptians found that Kohl could help deflect the heat of the sun from their faces in the blistering heat.

Fast forward to current day you have to admit, there are just as many vain men out there as women. I come from a Profession where vanity was a huge part of my life. Owning a salon for 27 years made me understand that vanity comes in all sexes…

If you don’t think that men are just as nervous before going out on a date for the first time as a woman is you’re mistaken. Although sometimes a man’s intentions may be different as far a where he wants the evening to go there is still a common thread between he and his date. That thread is to look as dashing and handsome for his date as he possibly can.

Men want to look nice and now they are turning to traditional female products to find ways to look better.

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Guys are getting into makeup and grooming more than ever. Last year, men spent over $2.5 billion on skincare and cosmetics. And more than $5 billion was spent on men’s  grooming products in the United States in 2013, more than double the $2.4 billion the guys spent back in 1997.

A man’s routine although different that a woman’s still consists of making sure that all of his features are up to par. For instance, his eyebrow hairs are cut with no 2″ long hairs coming out, his nose hairs are groomed and cut so nothing is protruding, his ear hairs are cut and let’s not forget his skin… Often time a man will have some sort of blemish or mark on this face that has to be attended to before his big night out so I’m saying there’s nothing wrong with putting a little concealer and matching blush on to hide his imperfections to finish off his look. Motives Cosmetics gives you that perfect look that otherwise make for an imperfect look.

So before you say NO to makeup on a man, just remember that any one of your idol’s wear some sort of makeup. From television celebrities, movie stars, news anchors to you just wanting to look your best. It doesn’t make you any less of a man because you wear makeup. In fact, the more appealing you are as a man the more appealing you are to someone looking at you.

Makeup has no sex. The days of being embarrassed about a man wearing makeup are over. We have evolved…

Visit Us at Motives Cosmetics to see the manly look you can create…


5 Things She Would Never Expect

As I have followed my path in life I realize more and more that I am an Alien.

Women often say that I am every woman’s dream and every mans nightmare. It’s something I never thought twice about until I started posting articles about things I do to enhance my relationship with my wife.

I’ll never forget, there was a party my neighbor had and I was talking to another neighbor and I mentioned something I had done for my wife. He was astounded and said you do that for your wife??? My answer was yes it keeps the spark in our marriage. Remember why you married your spouse in the first place. Why should that change, why should the spark and romance be any different that it was when you met.

So, here are 6 things you can do that she would never expect and maintain the spark and romance in your relationship.

Guy’s, please understand that I do this out of LOVE and not  (what’s in it for me). Trust me you will loose EVERYTHING if you expect anything other than an amazing feeling of selflessness.


Go to a party store and buy a balloon that says “I Love You” for no reason. Attach it to the mirror of her car without her knowing that you did it. Trust me, the element of surprise is worth a 1000 words…


IMG_2337Pour her a glass of wine and place the remote next to the wine in front of the tv… Place some symbol of affection such as a heart or something that she would interrupt as a sign of love for you.



So, this is great, get up a 1/2 hour earlier and make her morning coffee. It doesn’t have to be this huge project just a caring gesture… Here’s a hint, add some cinnamon in the grinds before it brews… I promise it will be a special morning.



Totally unexpected suprises are an incredible sign of how much you care and truly one she would never expect…

It doesn’t matter what it is but the element of surprise is priceless. Purchase her favorite perfume and attach a little note that just says I Love You… Nothing fancy but amazingly effective. Hide it in plain site in a cabinet you know she will open during the course of the day.



This is one of my favorites… Light her Fire in July… This is awesome, in the heat of summer crank the A/C up and light a fire.

Pick out your favorite beverage that you will both enjoy. When she comes home, greet her, kiss her and blindfold her. Gently take her hand and lead her into the room with the fireplace… Magic…

This is not Rocket Science. This is keeping a relationship alive for you and your significant other. It doesn’t take anything but common sense and a renewed feeling for the one you love.

I know there are many temptation out there but remember when you met your partner there was a reason why you wanted to spend the rest of your life with them and it wasn’t to cheat on them.

I hope this was helpful for you all…

The best thing you have is right next to you…



5 Tips To Maintain Balance In Your Relationship And Business


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Over the years I’ve seen more relationships become a “tug of war” and end because their partner didn’t agree on the others business goals and dreams. Even if your other half is not supportive in your mission you still have to maintain a sense of balance and understanding while you are pursuing your dream. Believe me, I understand that it can be very difficult. but if you believe in your “Dream” and “Your Relationship” then you have to find a way to “Balance Both.” Relationships are about give and take, so which path will you choose, The US-WE path or the I-ME path, the choice is yours…


1. We Have Two Ears And One Mouth For A Reason

One of the reasons we have two ears and one mouth is to listen twice as much as we talk (especially guys). Your ears are never closed, so you will always be able to hear what is being said but listening and paying attention with the goal of understanding what the other person is saying is a totally different skill. Actually listening involves maintaining eye contact, watching their body to see if they are becoming more uptight or more relaxed as they deliver their message.

Listening involves repeating information back to the person to make sure you have ‘get what they’re saying’. When you listen properly you will not become as defensive if it’s something that you understand as a potential ‘criticism’.


2. It Takes Two To Argue

The dictionary definition of an argument is ‘an exchange of diverging or opposite views, typically a heated or angry one’. The key word for me here is exchange. The word exchange means that two people have to be involved. If you remove yourself from this equation of opposite views then it’s impossible be an argument anymore. It doesn’t matter whether it’s your partner or a work colleague; you can take control and turn the argument into a discussion where you can see the situation through their eyes and turn the argument into a discussion with an actual resolution at the end of it, rather than two angry people going nowhere.


3. Think About What You Say Before You Say It

I know that the above approach sounds great in theory but what action can you take to make it a reality. When I feel myself on the verge of what could potentially be an argument with someone I love or a peer I think to myself  B.P.T.R which stands for Breathe, Pause, Think, and Respond. If you were totally honest with yourself; if you used this technique in your last ‘encounter’ you had, chances are it wouldn’t have happened. Most arguments escalate to the next level because you react and say something that ten minutes later you wish that you hadn’t said. True or true? Do this yourself and you’ll notice huge improvements with all of your interactions with other people and most importantly, those you love.

Next time you find yourself in a situation where someone in your life says something that could create ‘an argument’ where you just want to ‘snap’…BREATHE – take the oxygen in that will allow you think clearly. PAUSE – allow your mind to take control. THINK – let the most useful  ‘objected-focused’ response come to you and only then should you RESPOND.


4. Little Daily Acts Of Affection

Sometimes, little things can make difference. Don’t lose site of doing something EVERY DAY that have little or zero cost that really can really make your partner feel special. Introduce daily passion (even if it’s a kiss), this will keep you conscious of your relationship as well and long-term success which is inevitable.

Write a note every day, with a message of love, appreciation and gratitude. It’s imperative  to make sure you make a ‘big deal’ out of the first time  you see your partner at the end of each day. Turn off the TV, phone or computer and jump up and give them a big  kiss that says “I Love You and Missed You Today.” This may sound like an amazingly simple idea but trust me, it will make all of the difference for the both of you.


5. Share Your Goals With Each Other

You seem to have goals for everything except what could be the most imperative… Your lifelong goal, to be both happy in your relationship and successful in your business…

In any relationship it’s easy to get ‘uncomfortably comfortable’, however, this isn’t a healthy state to be in and what was once a beautiful relationship can begin to slide away. So now it’s up to you to set that relationship goal. Set a goal to take your partner on a weekend away, have a designated date night (even if it’s for pizza and a movie at home) or buy them flowers once a month. What you do isn’t as important as committing to actually doing something.

If I Don’t Know You, Why Should I Trust You?

Well isn’t that a powerful statement! It’s something that has baffled me for years…Through the course of history people have been deceived, manipulated, hurt, killed, gone bankrupt, even committed suicide because of another person who deceived them.

Who are you to listen to me? Are you so naive that you would fall for something I said and do it? NO! That’s a fool’s choice and unfortunately, it’s a choice too many people make and end up losing everything. Look, it’s happened to all of us, we’re so taken with choices that we don’t look into the consequences…


Let’s take buying a car for instance: There you are, knowing that you have a certain car in mind along with a certain budget that YOU can afford.

Then, along comes the smooth talking salesman and “BOOM” not the car, not the price, and not the experience you wanted.

Do you know what just happened? That salesman didn’t care about you or your needs, and you ended up falling prey to him. So, who won here? Hint: not you. He got exactly what he wanted – a higher commission check at your expense.


How about that last relationship you were in that didn’t work out? Chances are you were blinded by their handsome or beautiful face and body, and then starts pretty much any relationship. I’m not saying to have surveillance put on your significant other but too many people are too quick to jump into a relationship for fear that they will never find anyone like him/her again.

There are 8 billion people on this planet, odds are there is at least one other person out there that is better than the choice you made. Please let me be clear, there are relationships that do work out. I’m one of those relationships – we’ve been together for 35 years (hard to believe), raised two amazing children and still love each other more today than the day we met.

So why have we been together for so long? Simple, we found value in each other and know we could depend on and trust each other. This doesn’t come overnight but getting to know someone is a critical factor to how your life will turn out.

Why Should I Listen To You???

O.K. enough about relationships… Here is why I originally wrote this article.


As we go through life, we all have dreams, goals and aspirations of becoming successful. Have a career, eventually settle down and just live a good life. But for so many of us, life hits us hard.

It didn’t turn out the way we planned and now we’re in so deep that you wonder if you’ll ever get out of the situation you’re in. So what do you do? Look for options? Now here’s the brutally honest part of this article… In walks the next smooth talker offering you riches, income and cars like you’ve seen on TV and never thought you could have. “It’s easy, just become part of ‘The Team’ and we’ll take it from there.”

The truth is more times than not you have been scammed and out of desperation, you made a bad business decision. I’m just here to make you aware of future decisions and to have a different perspective when making big choices.

Donald Trump would NEVER make a business decision by looking at a company on the internet. Google is a great resource but that’s no way to research something you want to change your financial structure with.

My advice is to first form a relationship with whoever is offering you an opportunity. Second, find value for you, not him (remember the car guy). Most people unfortunately just want to recruit you and have nothing else to offer. That’s grounds for another disaster. Your mission is to find one that fits in with your lifestyle, not some one else’s.

I can’t count the number of times people have approached me and wanted me to “GET IN.” From my experience being a business owner and entrepreneur all my life I was able to go the extra step and find out the information to see if it was a “FIT FOR ME.” If it didn’t, I’d walk away.

Then one day, someone approached me with a new concept I’d never seen before. A doable business that was truly part time from home and actually paid us handsomely (No lie). It is a business that fit our lifestyle. I’m so glad I was able to say no so many times before, because I found the pearl in the oyster.

I hope I’ve opened your eyes to finding something that will bring happiness and value to your life. Next time someone offers you something that sounds too good to be true, take a step back and see if it’s for you. Research the company, make sure it’s a fit and that you can TRUST the person who you are dealing with. I wish you well and “No Regrets” in your next life changing decision.

James F. Sama

My Journey To Change My Wife

Let’s face it, we all have fantasies.

As we mature we have these theories of how our perfect relationship should be, but what we perceive doesn’t always become a reality.

I want to preface this by saying that I have been married for 35 incredible years and looking back at who I was and who I am today I’m glad things turned out the way they did, otherwise I feel that today I would either be divorced or the unhappiest man in the world.

When I first saw my wife I fell in love immediately with her beauty. I would say that’s pretty much what 100% of us fall for first. But unlike so many other women I had dated in the past I saw something different. I saw not only beauty but someone who was genuine, pure, honest and caring. These were traits I hadn’t encountered before in other women, at least not all in one package.

They say opposites attract and I must say that we were the most unlikely couple to ever be together, let alone be married.

As we moved forward in our relationship I had certain fantasies about how I like to see my wife and was pretty relentless in doing things to change my wife into who I wanted her to be.

Every time I would bring something home that was provocative or not quite appropriate in her eyes she would very politely say that it just wasn’t her and didn’t feel comfortable. I, being the gentleman I am, always submitted and backed down realizing that I was doing this for me, not her and realized how selfish that was.




I will Never Change My Wife!!!

As our years of marriage progressed and we learned more about each other it made me realize how trivial it was  to try to change my wife into something she’s not. What she is and always will be is an incredible wife, mother, lover, friend and soul mate to my heart only.

In the world today where there is a 60%+ divorce rate it makes not sense to me why couples no matter how young, old, gay, straight, black, white or integrated can’t look at each other and compromise on what’s important to both of you, not just one of you.

So next time you want to change your wife, take a step back and see if maybe it’s you that should change, because she’s just fine the way she is.

James F. Sama